Resources

This page is designed to remain “a work in progress.” The information will be regularly expanded and edited as resource material crosses Dr. Loveland’s desk and looks potentially helpful to parents. Some of these resources will be most helpful to Oregon residents because that is where Dr. Loveland practices, but some of the material might be helpful to any parent who might be dealing with family challenges. Dr. Loveland does not necessarily endorse all of the content of these materials, but there are some helpful ideas in each resource area.

HELPFUL LINKS

• courts.oregon.gov/familylaw/
  This site has a wide range of information for Oregon residents regarding divorce, family issues, and parenting plan design.
• osbar.org
  The Oregon State Bar provides legal resources and attorney information.
• oregonchildsupport.gov
  This site contains general information as well as calculators to determine different child support scenarios.
• bonusfamilies.com
  Stepfamilies looking for advice might find this site helpful.
• uptoparents.com
  This site has many suggestions on how to stay focused on children when a family undergoes divorce.
• childcenteredsolutions.org
  This is a Portland based organization devoted to protecting the rights of children involved in high-conflict domestic relations cases.
• collaborativedivorce.com
  There are many divorces that are settled peacefully through collaboration and mediation, and this site contains information on this approach to conflict resolution.
• kidsinthemiddle.org
  This is another site with suggestions on how to minimize the impact of divorce on children.
• kidsinthecrossfire.org
  You may find this short video helpful if the goal is to minimize stress on children.
• divorceinfo.com
  This is a general resource site for anyone going through a divorce.
• divorcesource.com
  This is another resource site for anyone undergoing a divorce.
• divorceonline.com
  This site provides general information and referrals.
• gooddivorcebooks.com
  Although many people use the internet, there are many good books that provide excellent suggestions for divorcing parents and their children.
• ourfamilywizard.com
  You must sign up for this site but many families use this system for sharing information and communicating about the children after a divorce.
• sharekids.com
  This site is designed to help parents with scheduling and post-divorce communication.
• extension.oregonstate.edu/fchThis site provides an 84 page publication regarding grandparent and third party issues.
• distanceparent.org
  Advertised as a long distance parenting community, this site addresses the challenges of staying connected to a child who does not live nearby.
• usmilitary.about.com/od/divorce
  Divorce for military personnel presents some unique challenges and this site provides information and resources for men and women in the service.
• makinglemonade.com
  This site is designed as a single parent network and has many suggestions.
• stepfamilies.info
  This is the site of the National Stepfamily Resource Center.
• aaml.org
  The American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers provides a wide range of information and resources for navigating the divorce process.

RELEVANT OREGON STATUTES

• ORS 107.101 Policy regarding parenting
• ORS 107.102 Parenting plan – content
• ORS 107.105 Provisions of judgment
• ORS 107.137 Factors considered in determining custody of child
• ORS 107.149 Policy regarding parents and their children
• ORS 107.169 Joint custody of child – modification
• ORS 107.425 Investigation of parties in domestic relations suit involving children
• ORS 109.119 Rights of person who establishes emotional ties creating child-parent relationship or ongoing personal relationship

PROFESSIONAL ASSOCIATION GUIDELINES AND STANDARDS

• Guidelines for Child Custody Evaluations in Family Law Proceedings
• Model Standards of Practice for Child Custody Evaluation

WORTHWHILE BOOKS

There are a great number of books on divorce related issues.  Some of these books are for parents and several have been written for children of all ages.  This is just a small sample.

For parents:

• Planning For Shared Parenting: A Guide for Parents Living Apart, available from the Association of Family and Conciliation Courts (A.F.C.C.) at www.afccnet.org.
• Mom’s House, Dad’s House: A Complete Guide for Parents Who Are Separated, Divorced, or Remarried, by Isolina Ricci.
• Parenting After Divorce: A Guide to Resolving Conflicts and Meeting Your Children’s Needs, by Philip Stahl.
• What About the Kids?: Raising Your Children Before, During, and After Divorce, by Judith Wallerstein and Sandra Blakeslee.
• Divorce Poison, by Richard Warshak.

For teens:

• The Divorce Helpbook for Teens, by Cynthia MacGregor.
• Now What Do I Do?: A Guide to Help Teenagers with Their Parents’ Separation or Divorce, by Lynn Cassella-Kapusinski.

For children:

• Mom’s House, Dad’s House for Kids: Feeling at Home in One Home or Two, by Isolina Ricci.
• Was It the Chocolate Pudding?: A Story for Little Kids About Divorce, by Sandra Levins and Bryan Langdo.
• When My Parents Forgot How to Be Friends, by Jennifer Moore-Mallinos and Marta Fabrega.

INTERESTING ARTICLES

Dr. Loveland will be adding articles written by other professionals as this website is developed.